Review it but don´t relive it
We all have our trauma.
And we can have a look at it and say to ourselves, well OK, I am not that hurt, rejected six years old girl/boy anymore. There´s no need to believe I am not worth anything anymore.
But please, don´t repeat the story over and over again, as by doing so, you are keeping it alive. Your are reliving it again and again and your mind is thinking that the story still continues.
That it is actual.
Tyhle příběhy jsou naše minulost. Ne naše přítomnost ani budoucnost.
REVIEW, UNDERSTAND, LEARN, MOVE ON – that´s good and that´s the key.
Relive over and over again – you are going to move nowhere.
BECOME A GREAT REVIEWER not RELIVER.
SO, HOW DO I REVIEW MY MEMORIES?
Talk about yourself in the third person. So, there is this 4 years old child, who´s parents gave away the dog he loved. Don´t say I was hurt and hopeless. The child was.
REVIEW IT TO SEE WHAT YOU CAN LEARN.
Rewieving teaches a lot.
While reliving it keeps the pain alive.